Supporting friends or loved ones when they are experience grief can be difficult.
We, as a society, are not comfortable with death and grief. This uncertainty can often cause us to pull away, or to not ask how the bereaved are doing.
It is difficult to watch our friends or loved ones suffer and be in emotional pain. However, trying to make them feel better or "get over it" is not an emotional healthy way of experiencing grief.
Please realize that grief is a process for each individual, and what may seem like the right or wrong way to experience it, is highly personal.
Learn more about how you can support those that are grieving.
In our hearts, we all know that death is a part of life. In fact, death gives meaning to our existence because it reminds us how precious life is".
Death is a reminder that life is impermanent. Life can change on a dime, and therefore, death is highly unpredictable, in most cases.
Death can teach us to live in the moment. To enjoy and cherish what we have right now. To love and appreciate the relationships we have now. To not take anything for granted, including time.
Grief is hard. Ignoring grief is harder. Be courageous and continue to walk with your grief, so that you can begin reconnecting to the beauty of life.
"To love deeply is one of life’s most profound gifts, and the loss of a loved one is one of life’s most profound tragedies. That they can happen simultaneously, and that we somehow manage to, one day, find even a morsel of joy in our hearts again, is profoundly and wonderfully mysterious".
Grief is a natural, normal emotion.
Grief is a journey, it has no specific end point.
We grieve because we have loved deeply.
We walk with grief because thats what we get to do.
At some point, we will have small reconnections to joy.
Please read Dr. Cacciatore's article here on more in-depth insight.
"The Selah Carefarm just outside of Sedona, AZ is the first carefarm for the traumatically bereaved in the U.S. It’s a very special place on 10 acres of beautiful farmland where bereaved family members can come to both give and receive connection, compassion, and understanding. All the animals on the carefarm have been rescued from abuse, neglect, and torture. Our grieving families know what it means to suffer, and so do these animals".
When I visited the Care Farm, I was in awe. It is located outside of serene Sedona Arizona, where there was wide open spaces of all kinds of animals, with traumatic pasts. These animals are a direct life line to the bereaved. They are sometimes shy and slow to trust, but with gentle encouragement and sacred boundaries, I watched both the animals and the grieving slowly give life back to each other.
This is an experience I will never forget, and I am grateful that Dr. Cacciatore, and her team, have provided a sanctuary for healing.
The MISS Foundation was established in 1996 by Dr. Joanne Cacciatore.
This foundations provides services for bereaved families experiencing the death of a child, at any age.
Most of us will not have to suffer from the death of a child. However, we will more than likely know a family, that has had such experiences. Miscarriages, stillborn, deaths of newborns, toddlers, teens, young adults and adult children - are all traumatic.
There is help. Please reach out .