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Perhaps you have heard the term "sober curious". This is for people that are thinking about getting sober, but not quite sure they want to go "there".
The same concept applies to being mortal curious. One may not be sure they want to go "there"....but are curious enough to keep reading or to actually reach out. I have found that once people begin talking, in a safe environment, about death, dying, and grief, they begin to really wanting to share their experiences, as they have not had a place to do so. Being mortal curious means being open to alternatives, not letting society expectations put you in a box (no pun intended) and to be unapologetic for wanting to explore, empower, and enrich you and your loved ones profound life experience.
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Relationships are often what is discussed when one is nearing EOL.
There can be regrets, or wanting to reconnect, or understanding that it is best to release a relationship. The dying often talk about the importance of their relationships, and sometimes, they have a hard time dying until they communicate with a person. I often tell those I work with....do not want to work on your relationships. Find the time now and seek resolutions to whom you need to. This reconnection with others can be difficult because it asks a person to: Be willing to deepen the quality of the relationship Allow others to walk with you on the life/EOL journey Create meaning with those that you love and care about Have willingness to be vulnerable and emotionally intimate Are you wanting to take the action necessary to build deeper relationships? If you want some guidance on how to do so, please reach out. As with anything in life, the more we practice and engage with the things we are uncomfortable with, the more confidence and peace of mind we gain.
It may seem counterintuitive to explore EOL matters with others, but the more we openly talk about it, bringing it to the surface, the more we get comfortable and realize that EOL is a natural part of the human experience. Hesitation about doing ACP (advance care planning), because either unwilling or not ready, compounds the fear and anxieties we have about EOL. This fear continues the cycle of avoidance. When we avoid, we guess at how things might turn out, we leave the decision making to others to guess, and we place the burden of these decisions on others. Each of these scenarios create a unique crisis when in strained life situations and also can add to the suffering in not getting appropriate care or over-medical care that goes against a person's wishes. Gain confidence and peace of mind by being proactive, and give the gift of a clear roadmap to those you love. What if we approached EOL matters with a childlike curiosity? What might it look like if we asked open-minded questions such as:
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