Susan Cain, who wrote this article for Psychology Today asks:
"What narrative have you constructed from the events of your life"?
"The stories we tell about ourselves are the key to our well-being".
Susan says the "idea is not to delude yourself that bad things are actually good It is, instead, to find meaning in the progression from one event to the next. It is to recognize that everything constantly changes.
"Our stories are everything. They are the heart of love and of meaning. So what is your story"?
A Necessary Conversation asks "What is your backstory with death, dying and grief"?
There is a possibility you may not be clear on what your backstory is with death.
We live in a death phobic society that does not openly discusses death, dying and grief.
Your history with end of life will most likely predict how you will respond to future death experiences.
Take the steps to:
Be emotionally present with the dying.
Repair the relationships with dying.
Prepared documents to ensure your safety.
Feel confident in your medical care choices
Explore. Empower. Enrich.
Your Journey. Your Way.
A cancer patient reconsiders her end-of-life wishes, as Covid-19 brings mortality into sharper focus
In a way, the pandemic had accomplished what palliative care doctors had been trying to do for years. They’d wanted to broach these topics earlier, to give patients the chance to think over those decisions in advance. Otherwise, everything would happen by default: the body giving way, the attempt to revive the heart with chest compressions and shocks, the insertion of a breathing tube. “We default to life. We default to very aggressive care,” said Juliet Jacobsen, a palliative care specialist at Mass. General. “We often just don’t ask people.”
Please do not wait until there's a crisis (life threatening illness or diseases like covid) to start having conversations about what is important to you at the end of life, and after death care.
These conversations are so necessary and valuable for everyone in the family.
Contact A Necessary Conversation to be proactive and prepared for unknown circumstances.
This article brings up some interesting points, and I have responded (in bold/italics) to each point.
"Everyone must figure out their own way to handle the fear of death".
A Necessary Conversation feels that when we work together, it's more of a serene and powerful experience.
“Everybody has a fear of death, no matter what culture, religion or country they come from,” said Kelvin Chin, author of “Overcoming the Fear of Death” and founder of the Overcoming the Fear of Death Foundation and the non-profit turningwithin.org.
Together, we can explore the fear and the wishes for death, dying and grief. We do not have to stay in the unhealthy narrative that we've told ourselves about End of Life.
“Death is part of life. You, too, will be where I am someday, and you can’t face death with fear,”
Death is a 100%-guaranteed life event. Together we can explore, empower and enrich your journey with it.