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This is a worth while article, showing that there is a fear of "having conversations about death and dying".
However, working together, we can get you to feel more comfortable and empowered when having “A Necessary Conversation” with friends and loved ones.
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According to the article by Anita Singh, published 2015, a poll of 2,198 adults whose loved ones has died within the past year, found that 83% of these adults had been given parting words of wisdom by the deceased.
This article states that the reason why words of wisdom are given on the deathbed, is because the dying wants those they love, to be happy. Isn't this interesting~ Is the dying stating the obvious - to be happy, live in the moment and don't have regrets? If this kind of advice is often given, what can we learn from it? Have you received words of wisdom from a dying person? What kinds of wisdom would you want to impart if you were dying? Ask yourself, why can't you take these pearls of wisdom and integrate them into your life currently? You can! LIVE DEATH AWARE! "It is one of the most vexing chapters of old age: how to navigate not just the inevitable ending, but the days and months immediately before it. As the bonds of support and dependency change, how do we tell our children that it is O.K. to say goodbye? And how do we tell our parents that it is O.K. to go"?
The conversation between adult children and aging parents is often difficult, especially for the adult children. “There’s almost a superstition where if I don’t discuss it, it won’t happen. Or discussing it is depressing. A lot of times older people will say to me, ‘I’ve been trying to have this planning you talk about, but my kids don’t want to discuss it.’ So the parents are bringing up something relevant to their life, and the kids are saying, ‘I can’t deal with it.’ They’re making it about them, not their parents. And that actually leads to huge problems.” Let's make a plan to start speaking with the elders in our life. Chances are, they may be ready to talk. Be present, leave your ideas and judgements behind and just listen to the dying. These conversations will do everyone good. It is very common for the dying patient and their families to not talk about death. No one wants to diminish hope for the dying.
According to the attached article, "Family members worried that bringing up the subject (death) would destroy hope. Residents thought they should protect their families from thinking about their death". Would you talk to your loved ones about dying and death? Does it help the situation to avoid talking about death? What are the pros of talking about death? What are the cons of not talking about death? |
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