If we can practice letting go on a daily basis and stop gripping tightly to the outcomes, chances are we will experience peace.

If we start a contemplative practice, in which we embrace the silence and stillness of our inner minds, then odds are we will struggle less.

If our struggles become more of a surrender, then we make space for stillness.

Stillness allows us to be comfortable with the silent space that will accompany us in our final journey.

"The contemplative way thrusts us into the beautiful struggle of embracing the unknown and losing the need to control".

Embracing stillness takes practice.

Stillness, allows us to go deep within our inner minds.  

When we embrace silence, we receive many gifts, such as:

• Paying attention to what we surround ourselves with, 
• Discovering our true essence,
• Awareness of how you interact with others 
• Becoming conscious of our reactions vs. our responses.

"Breathe. Contemplate. Then do. Or don’t do. But choose before the reaction".

"If we strive to transform our collective isolation into an opportunity for communal solitude, we might discover that it is, as it has always been, the seedbed for growth in holiness and wholeness, for communion and connection, for resistance and renewal". we strive to
​ transform our collective isolation into an opportunity for communal solitude, we 
Each of our lives have been upended by Covid.  We've all had to reduce the size of our lives.  

This sudden quietness has been quite an adjustment for a lot of us.

Does the stillness unnerve you?  What tools do you use to settle into the solitude?

This article has some very good points to help ease the fear of death.

A Necessary Conversation envelopes the majority of these recommendations, and I feel, the only way through the fear of death, it to walk through it while one explores the emotions, empowers the medical choices and enriches the relationships in ones lives.  Taken together, the "3-E's" can help ease the fear of death, dying and grief.

Here's a snapshot of the 9 tactics that are provided in the attached article:
1. Use the fear of death as motivation to lengthen your life by practicing healthy habits. 
2. Get older and become less fearful.
3. Open up to gratitude. 
4. Create a legacy.
5. Keep your purpose top of mind.
6. Express your creativity.
7. Let the knowledge of death help you appreciate the sweetness of life.
8. Find social support and talk about your anxieties.
9. Indulge in a little death humor.

​"The premise was simple: people go along, drink tea, eat cake and discuss death: not to be morbid, just to raise awareness and to "help people make the most of their (finite) lives."  Founder Death Cafe, Jon Underwood

What a simple, yet powerful idea!  Gather together, openly discuss death and find a common experience among like-minded people.  The power of having a community to discuss freely the emotions around death awareness can be powerful and profound.  

If you are interested in a Death Cafe - please join one.  

If you want a more of an individualized arena to explore death and dying, please contact me.

If you wish to join A Necessary Conversation small group forum, please email me.