"We need to come out of the bubble of denial, because we are suffering"
We are a society that deeply denies death. No one likes to speak out it. It is taboo.
Doctors have a hard time discussing death.
Family members often pretend that their loved one is not dying.
Emotions are not spoken about.
Most folks don't have an "End of Life Plan, detailing wishes and wants.
Grief is complicated, and even isolating, because as a society, we don't know how to engage with people that are in grief.
All of the above, situations plus many more issues around death, dying and grief, continue to add our extended suffering because we deny death. Denying anything that is a 100% guaranteed is mind-boggling.
Be willing to engage in the "3-E's" (see the "Services" tab at the top of this webpage) and start normalizing death!
This article was first published in June 2018, and this movement is continuing to gain more awareness and attention.
The Death Positive Movements is for those of us whom want to break the taboos around discussions of death. Death is a natural, normal, part of life, so let's stop pretending it is not.
I love how Ellen Goodman (The Conversation Project) likened the death-positive movement to the earlier movement for natural childbirth. “Birth was perceived as a medical event, and then in came the women’s movement and ‘Our Bodies, Ourselves,’” she said. “It wasn’t doctors who changed the way we give birth in America. It was women who said that giving birth was a human event. I think that we’re trying to do that now. Dying is a human experience. We’re trying to put the person back into the center of the experience.”
Let's work together to change the way you think, and act, towards death. Let's reclaim your power!
For most of us, this particular date continues to conjure up specific memories and images of this tragic day.
Each year, to relive these remembrances, can be so difficult.
As hard as this day is to recall, I feel it is important, for me, to pay homage (even if I do so silently) to all whom have been affected by this historic event. I recall watching everyday people became extraordinary heroes that day ~ they showed incredible courage, by putting the greater good of others, before themselves.
All of these remarkable individuals, continue to remind me of what is the best trait of being a human being.
I can only hope that as a society, we will continue to honor all of those whom sacrificed so dearly, by returning to the best traits of being a human being.
,Ellen Goodman talks about the "Denial Hall of Fame" and how she lost a chance to say goodbye to her loved one.
"Death Denial" is part of the American culture. Most people do not want to talk about, or even acknowledge that death will happen to each of us. This denial, creates an atmosphere of missing moments of opportunity, to connect more deeply with our friends, family and loved ones.
Ellen writes about the difference between a good and a hard death. This difference, Ellen finds, hinges on whether a loved ones wishes are expressed and respected. However, if we do not talk openly with our friends and family about our wishes, how can they ever be respected and followed through on?
Together, we can start working now on having these conversations, long before the chaos and/or the illness, occur.