Death and dying are difficult topics to speak about. However, it’s best to not ignore what’s truly happening, with a dying loved one.
The article by Merritt Whittley, offers the following:
Guidance on possible things to say or do -
Ask how they’re doing.
Ask what they need.
Let them know you’re there.
Don’t forget to say, “I love you”.
Write words of comfort in a letter.
Encourage loved ones to share.
Be honest, kind, and open.
Things to avoid saying to someone who is dying -
Don’t give false assurances.
Don’t force a conversation.
Don’t force religion if your loved one is not religious.
Make peace with yourself and your loved one
Please, if you are given the opportunity to be with the dying, be available to converse with them, if they have a desire to do so.
A Necessary Conversation can help the family to start engaging in such conversations, and to learn skills to navigate this emotional journey.