Death is not optional.
However, we can learn more about death and dying to become more comfortable and more aligned with the needs of the dying....we just need to learn how.
Dying is more than just physical - it's also spiritual and emotional. Understanding, on a deeper level, all of the needs of the dying, can help us to be more emotionally present for these life-altering events.
BJ Miller and Shoshana Berger share a few ideas in their book "A Beginners Guide to the End", such as:
Don't leave a mess - lighten the load on your family members, and try to purge.
Clean out your emotional attic - if you do not want personal things to be exposed after your death, please be aware to not leave "emotional bombs" for families to discover secrets.
Mend important relationships - don't leave any regrets with relationships. A Necessary Conversation recommends Repair, Release, Reconnect so you and your loved ones don't have any Regrets.