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Why should we start our sentences with ‘I’?
Starting a sentence with ‘I’ helps us talk about difficult feelings, say how the problem is affecting us and stops other people feeling blamed. It forces us to take responsibility for our own thoughts and feelings.
Partners tend to experience this as less hostile, opening the possibility of further conversation and hope for a resolution.
Ultimately, they can frame a situation as something to be workshopped and solved together, instead of sounding like a complaint about your partner, or an attack on their character.
Here are some specific ways that "I" and "You" statements are used in our everyday lives.
Good communication is a habit
Communicating effectively isn’t just a skill you’re born with. It can be learned, and with a little repetition and practice, things will get easier.