If one talks about death, does it invite "it" into your life?
When I was young, I was always very fascinated by death.
However, I intuitively knew that I shouldn't talk about it.
How did I know this? I have no idea, as no one ever said "Dee Dee, DO NOT talk about death".
I just knew that death was not a good topic to talk about at the dinner table....or any where else.
Even though I didn't talk about death with others, I certainly thought about it a lot.
I remember chastising myself for being morbid - or surely insane!
Why would a "normal child" think about death?
When death is present, most folks talk quietly, nod with compassion, give sweet and sad hugs.....and then
we disappear back in to the safety of normal life.
One certainly does not bring death willingly into ones world. Only crazy people do that, right?
It wasn't until dozens of years later that I came to the realization that death was a part of life! Profound.
However, society pretends that death is not hanging around.
Even if death is not an immediate part of ones life, it is all around us - movies, news, music, novels, tv etc.
In fact, we as a society have a very strange, and detached view of death.
The view is that death is "out there somewhere". We do not encourage it to come to our home.
What would happen if we chose to invite the conversation about death in?
** The attached article is about John O'Donohue, whom is an Irish priest, philosopher and poet.
In this article he says...."A deathbed is the loveliest place to be if you're helping someone to die who has really lived" . Hence, live life well to die well.
More importantly, John O'Donohue believes that we can all transform our fear of death, and this transformation will enable us to fear little else.